What do you believe about relationships?

Your beliefs are important because they determine the relationship (or lack of relationship) you end up with.

For example, if you believe that all men cheat, you'll attract cheaters. If you believe that men resist commitment, you'll probably end up with a guy who's in no hurry to sit for an engagement photo.

If you believe you don't have what it takes to meet a guy who'll love you for the rest of your life, guess what? You're right.

Change your beliefs, and you'll change the type of men --and relationships -- you attract.

If you find yourself dating the same type of guy over and over, it is definitely going to mess with your belief system (and it's probably a result of your belief system!). You probably don't think that a guy who'll make you happy really exists. I'll bet you find yourself working too hard every time you start a relationship, or go on a date, or even to a party.

Stop.

I want you to sit down and ask yourself what you want out of your next relationship. Decide what you want in a man, instead of obsessing over how to get a man, how to please a man, and how to dress for a man.

After you determine what you want, jot it down. Then write an affirmation around it.

Here's the one that worked for me:

"I am happily married to a loyal, loving, reliable, successful, fun man."

(Because I formerly attracted guys who cheated, went hot and cold on me, didn't call or show up when they said they would, and weren't particularly fun.)

I'd really feel it, too. I brought all my senses into what it would be like to be married to a loyal, loving, reliable, successful, fun man.

What would it look like?

Feel like?

Smell like?

Taste like?

Sound like?

When I wasn't writing my affirmation, I went about my life as usual. I went to work. I hung out on Friday and Saturday nights with my friends. All the while, I kept writing (and feeling) my affirmations every day.

Then, the man I married walked into my life. The beautiful thing is, we're actually happily married. Too many couples aren't.

Would you like to be happily married someday?

You can have what you want if you know what you want, and if you believe it's possible.

Affirmations will make it possible.

Decide what you want. Think up an affirmation and write it 15-20 times every single day. Before you know it, you'll be dating better men, perhaps the one who'll bring you joy for the rest of your life.