When we are angry at our spouse, occasionally we put our foot in our mouths one too many times. We stumble around, attempting to find the best words to discuss a problem we're having in our relationship.

Discussing certain subjects like money, sex or child rearing can be difficult, especially if the relationship is already problematic.

Effective communication for couples is an art in itself. It is an important part of any successful relationship; yet oftentimes overlooked the most by couples.

Busy schedules and the demands of family, work and daily household responsibilities take a toll on a relationship, leaving little time for relaxation and just having fun together.

So what happens when we get burned out? Well, we usually take our anger out on the people we love the most.

Here are some ways to open the lines of effective communication.

' Laughter is the best medicine. Life is serious enough. When faced with a particular problem that is not earth shattering, try putting a little humor into the situation.

' Hold back the criticism. All of us have habits that get on each other's nerves. So, he doesn't put away the dishes right, or neatly fold the towels like you do. So she loses her store receipts and can't balance the check book accurately. Don't sweat the small stuff.

' Try not to go to bed angry. Make sure to settle your differences before the end of the evening. Starting a new day with forgiveness is the best way to strengthen a relationship and is good for our health too.

' Don't bring up past indiscretions. Whatever happened in your past cannot be changed. Sometimes it is best to keep certain experiences to ourselves. Telling your spouse something they don't know could only hurt them more.

' When communicating dissatisfaction with your partner, don't verbally attack them. Simply state your concerns like this: 'I feel bad when you don't help me around the house.' Try to avoid saying, 'Why don't you ever help me around the house'? Or, 'Sometimes it hurts me when you forget to call when you will be late.' Try to avoid saying, 'You never call and tell me anything. You are so irresponsible!'

Positive discussions in a love relationship are possible without the anger. So often, heated discussions escalate into hostile comments and lead to irreparable damage from hurt and resentment.

Why not start conquering communication difficulties in your relationship before they cause any long-lasting effects on your romantic relationship. You have nothing to lose and so much to gain.